The 5 Pillars of Parenting in a Hypersexualised World

Ramadhan is the month in which the Qur’an was revealed and the month in which fasting has been obligated.

It is the perfect time to stop and reflect on how we are raising our children to embody obedience and worship of Allah in a hypersexualised world.

Sunday 3rd April, 6-7pm

I'm Muslim because my parents are Muslim

"Or were they created out of nothing? Or are they the creators? Or did they create the heavens and the earth? In fact, they are not certain." [At-Tur: 36-37]

The reality is your children are growing up in a world which not only believes discovering our divine purpose is unnecessary, but those whose life is founded on doubts will question your child about why they believe what they do.  If your child is Muslim because you are, that leaves them vulnerable and prey to the doubts of others. 

How do we ensure we develop a strong foundation and intellectual conviction in our children? 

What can we do as parents to ensure they understand:

• Their origin and purpose
• Why Allah deserves to be worshipped and obeyed
• Why human beings are incapable of making laws 

Sunday 10th April, 6-7pm

Showing Love Vs Being Loved

"The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, kissed Hasan ibn 'Ali while al-Aqra' ibn Habis at-Tamimi was sitting with him. Al-Aqra' observed, 'I have ten children and I have never kissed any of them.' The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, looked at him and said, 'Whoever does not show mercy will not be shown mercy.'" (Sahih al-Bukhari)

Children need to be loved. Yet many of our children grow up not feeling the love of their parents, especially the father because love is not communicated in the language they understand.

This makes them vulnerable in many ways. What can we do to embody the sunnah in the way we show love to our children? How do we make them strong to resist the allure of sexual promiscuity?

Sunday 17th April, 6-7pm

Communicating Your Values

"So it is by mercy from Allah that you were gentle with them. And had you been harsh, hard-hearted, they would have dispersed from around you. So pardon them and ask forgiveness for them and consult them in the conduct of affairs. And when you are resolved, place your trust in Allah; indeed, Allah loves those who place their trust (in Him)." [Ale Imran: 159]

Our children are growing up in a world where pre-marital sexual relationships are perfectly normal and LGBT relationships are the embodiment of 'love is love'.

What can we do to ensure we create two-way communication which grants permission for our children to come to us with their questions?

And how can we build our own positive values and challenge the false narratives around them?

Sunday 24th April, 6-7pm

Du'a - The Ultimate Weapon of the Believing Parent

"Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, for whoever is mindful of Allah—He will make for him a way out (of every difficulty) and will provide for him from where he never expects, and whoever places his trust in Allah—He will suffice him." [At-Talaaq: 2-3]

Sometimes we focus on material support when we face problems with our children.

Firstly, why do we often turn to Allah in response to a crisis?

Secondly, do we truly comprehend that the solution to difficulties is in our conversation with Allah. By imploring Him subhanahu wa ta'aala to help us deal with what may seem an intractable issue we are recognising that we are weak and Allah has full control over our affairs.

How can we appreciate the importance of du'a once more?

Sunday 1st May, 6-7pm

Leading By Example

“Our Lord, grant us in our spouses and our offspring a comfort to the eyes, and make us a good example of the ones who were mindful (of God).” [Ash-Shu’ara: 74]

Our children often follow what we do, rather than what we say.

If we want to shape who they become, we have to lead by example.

As the saying goes, "you can't give what you don't have." How do we leverage our influence as leaders for our children?